Dealing with the guilt of missed training

Dealing with the guilt of missed training

Ever felt guilty about missing a run? Discover why one skipped workout won't derail your progress, how to let go of runner's guilt, and when rest or rescheduling is actually the smarter choice.

Jun 19, 2026

Most runners know the feeling of waking up (tired), laying in bed thinking about the run that is on their plan, not wanting to go and having the pit of anxiety in your stomach if you just lie there instead of getting out the door.


The voice in your head saying “I should go”, “maybe I am not that tired”, “you’re lazy if you lie in bed” or “if I miss this run I am going to fall so far behind.” Suddenly, the emotional load of missing the run feels heavier than just doing the run itself.


Most of us know that feeling and know those voices, because most of us have skipped runs or rescheduled them to another time.


The truth of the matter is that one missed run is rarely the problem. The anxiety, guilt and pressure we place around it can often have a much bigger impact on our mental health, our energy and our recovery.


Although we speak highly of consistency at Femmi, consistency isn’t about not taking a day off or never missing a run. Consistency is the act of putting yourself first, knowing what your body needs, and doing the training that matters at a time that works for you.


Some days, your body is asking for rest, so take it. Some days, your nervous system is overloaded, so pull back the intensity. Some days, you’re tired, flat, stressed or simply not in the right headspace to run, so just don’t run. Listening to that isn't a weakness. It is literally what will keep your love for running alive and protect your body by preventing burn out or injury.


It is exactly why we built the reschedule feature in Femmi. We know life doesn’t always fit neatly around a training plan. We know your cycle, energy, stress, work, sleep and mental health can all affect how you feel on any given day, so instead of seeing a missed run as a failure, we wanted to give you a way to move it. If today doesn’t feel right, take the guidance on when is an appropriate time to do that run and reschedule it.


The thing with running is that you have to make it work for you, not the other way around. We see plenty of people online waking up at 4am and smashing out a run in the morning, but that might not work for you. Just because you don’t get your run done first thing, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t count. Afternoon and evening runs can be just as valuable. In fact, some people feel stronger, more energised and more mentally ready later in the day.


The goal is not to force yourself into someone else’s version of a “good runner.” The goal is to build a training routine that supports your health, your lifestyle and your long-term relationship with running.


So the next time you’re laying in bed and feeling anxious about missing a run, pause. Ask yourself: do I need to push through, or do I need to adjust? Sometimes the best choice is to go. Sometimes the best choice is to rest. And sometimes the best choice is simply to move the run to a time or day that feels better.


Listen to your body. Trust the bigger picture. Use the tools that help you stay flexible in Femmi. And remember: the guilt is not helping you become a better runner. Don’t let it consume you or eat up the energy you could be putting into your next run - whenever that may be!

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Lydia is the Co-Founder and CEO at Femmi. An accomplished athlete and running coach, Lydia has been working directly with athletes for over 5 years. She has also held the Nike Head Running Coach position for the Pacific region for the last 6 years. Lydia is passionate about building supportive, inclusive communities centred around running and movement. She will stop at nothing to help women feel proud and accepting of their bodies.